Monday, July 09, 2007
The Skills of Being Happy
Happiness is a mindset, a choice, something that you choose to be. You must first decide that you want to be happy and then with a few of these tips you can become and stay happy.
Let us start from the place you might be; full of bad feelings. Release your feelings; express your feelings of affection, friendship and passion to the people around you. This will allow you to begin moving towards happiness. The people in your life will most likely reciprocate your actions. Try not to keep pent up anger of frustrations, this is bad for your health. Instead find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to anyone.
The trick is to forgive. Forgive them, say out loud “I forgive you” (they don’t have to hear you, just you) and release the anger and resentment. Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies. Anger is your emotion, you feel it, it is bad for your health, so let it go. You do not have to forget, you can remember that person did you wrong, but you do not have to suffer your anger. You do not have to trust that person any more, but do not feel your anger any more. Forgive them and you will be happier.
Working at something brings tremendous personal satisfaction. It gives you the feeling of being competent and of value. When you feel you are worth something you are happier than worrying about getting stuff done. Accomplishments are necessary for all of us; they give us a sense of worth.
Learning is a joyful exercise. When you are learning you are living. Try and learn something new everyday. Learning also makes us expand and broaden our horizons, and could also give us more opportunities in the future. When you stop learning you stop living, so keep learning.
Move, do some non work related exercise. Run, jog, walk, swim, bike, and do other things that your body was made for. Feel alive; physical health is good for your happiness, be healthy and you will find it easier to be happy.
Laugh and laugh heartily; Laughter is the best medicine, so feel free to laugh. Laugh everyday, people like to be around happy people, so being happy will bring more friends into your life. Life is not so serious that you can not laugh at the situation, or yourself, so feel free to laugh as much as makes you feel good.
Start to work on a place called ‘self’. Love your self; loving means accepting, to love your self means to accept that you are not a perfect being. You are an individual, a conscious being that that makes choices that in turn makes things happen. Making things happen sometimes results in mistakes, forgive yourself and move on. Keep this in mind; you have not failed until you quit.
When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that small start will eventually lead to something else, then to something else, and to something else. Life is about finding out about right and wrong, trying and failing, winning and losing. These are things that happen as often as you inhale and exhale. Failure, in a person’s life has become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should not hinder us from becoming happy.
Every time you exert effort to improve the quality of life and your being, whether it is cleaning up your room, helping a friend, taking care of your sick child, or relative, rescue an animal to be your pet, and so on. Doing these things causes life to give you points for that accomplishment.
Imagine life is a game and has a big score board. Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points. Think how it would feel to look at that board at the end of each day and think to your self “Whew! I got a point today. Instead of looking at it all blank and murmur “Geez, I didn’t even score today. I wish I had had the guts to try” and then walk away. When you do a “good” deed you score a point, when you do a “bad” deed the other team scores. A failure does not result in a point for either team, so do not be afraid to try.
These basic skills can be fine tuned further to match your surroundings and circumstances. Using them will make you better, help to make the results you desire, and this will result in happiness.
Be Blessed
Let us start from the place you might be; full of bad feelings. Release your feelings; express your feelings of affection, friendship and passion to the people around you. This will allow you to begin moving towards happiness. The people in your life will most likely reciprocate your actions. Try not to keep pent up anger of frustrations, this is bad for your health. Instead find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to anyone.
The trick is to forgive. Forgive them, say out loud “I forgive you” (they don’t have to hear you, just you) and release the anger and resentment. Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies. Anger is your emotion, you feel it, it is bad for your health, so let it go. You do not have to forget, you can remember that person did you wrong, but you do not have to suffer your anger. You do not have to trust that person any more, but do not feel your anger any more. Forgive them and you will be happier.
Working at something brings tremendous personal satisfaction. It gives you the feeling of being competent and of value. When you feel you are worth something you are happier than worrying about getting stuff done. Accomplishments are necessary for all of us; they give us a sense of worth.
Learning is a joyful exercise. When you are learning you are living. Try and learn something new everyday. Learning also makes us expand and broaden our horizons, and could also give us more opportunities in the future. When you stop learning you stop living, so keep learning.
Move, do some non work related exercise. Run, jog, walk, swim, bike, and do other things that your body was made for. Feel alive; physical health is good for your happiness, be healthy and you will find it easier to be happy.
Laugh and laugh heartily; Laughter is the best medicine, so feel free to laugh. Laugh everyday, people like to be around happy people, so being happy will bring more friends into your life. Life is not so serious that you can not laugh at the situation, or yourself, so feel free to laugh as much as makes you feel good.
Start to work on a place called ‘self’. Love your self; loving means accepting, to love your self means to accept that you are not a perfect being. You are an individual, a conscious being that that makes choices that in turn makes things happen. Making things happen sometimes results in mistakes, forgive yourself and move on. Keep this in mind; you have not failed until you quit.
When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that small start will eventually lead to something else, then to something else, and to something else. Life is about finding out about right and wrong, trying and failing, winning and losing. These are things that happen as often as you inhale and exhale. Failure, in a person’s life has become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should not hinder us from becoming happy.
Every time you exert effort to improve the quality of life and your being, whether it is cleaning up your room, helping a friend, taking care of your sick child, or relative, rescue an animal to be your pet, and so on. Doing these things causes life to give you points for that accomplishment.
Imagine life is a game and has a big score board. Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points. Think how it would feel to look at that board at the end of each day and think to your self “Whew! I got a point today. Instead of looking at it all blank and murmur “Geez, I didn’t even score today. I wish I had had the guts to try” and then walk away. When you do a “good” deed you score a point, when you do a “bad” deed the other team scores. A failure does not result in a point for either team, so do not be afraid to try.
These basic skills can be fine tuned further to match your surroundings and circumstances. Using them will make you better, help to make the results you desire, and this will result in happiness.
Be Blessed
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