Sunday, July 29, 2007
The Right to Choose Your Reaction
Being happy is a personal choice. How you react to situations is a choice that you make. How you think about a situation is your choice, what meaning you give to that situation is your choice. You have the right and responsibility to control your self and your thoughts. You are the one that determines your emotional state by the way you have reacted to the situation.
Let us say your friend who was coming to pick you up fails to arrive at the set time; how you react to that is your choice. You can choose to worry that they got into an accident, or worry that their car broke down, or got a flat tire. You can think negatively, that they forgot, or even went without you. You can have low self esteem and think that you are not worthy to get picked up on time. Finally you can accept the situation, that you friend is late and you then choose to do something else, like read a book, or write a new manifesting entry into your book, and so on, until your friend arrives.
Happiness is a learned skill. Like learning to ride a bike for the first time it seems a dauntless task, yet after you have learned to ride you wonder why you thought it was going to be so hard. Personal happiness is first and foremost a choice. You choose to be happy: You can and do make that very choice hundreds of times a day.
Every time there is a situation, it is your reaction to it that determines your happiness. A situation is just that a situation, an event, a happening. Your reaction to that is your choice; and this choice is what determines your actions, and these actions carry on to influence your happiness level.
So when an event happens; look at the situation, it only takes a few seconds. What meaning do you intend to attach to this event and why. Think for a second, will the meaning you attach to the situation serve you, or will it cause you to make bad choices. Will you choose to be happy and do something else, or will you choose anger and make erroneous statements? Like when your friend is late, do you do small chores and easy tasks while waiting, or do you get mad and curse them for being irresponsible and wasting your time?
Things happen because there is a reason. Are you so wise and all knowing that you can accurately determine why an event has occurred? The reason is usually not what you jump to conclusion about. More often than not the meaning we attach to an event is not even closely related to the actual cause. This results in confused emotions, and a side effect of stress that you just do not need to inflict upon yourself.
Maybe you thought the worse about your friend and were ready to forever damn them as lowlife scum; when, your friend shows up and says they had to get you this present and it took a little while longer to get it wrapped than anticipated. You are so worked up from your anger you say things that later you will regret. However had you just occupied your time with a few small tasks while waiting, you would then be happily surprised.
So when an event happens, just realize it is an event, nothing more. You then make a choice of how you will react to this event. Will you choose to be happy, or will you choose to be unhappy?
Be Blessed
Let us say your friend who was coming to pick you up fails to arrive at the set time; how you react to that is your choice. You can choose to worry that they got into an accident, or worry that their car broke down, or got a flat tire. You can think negatively, that they forgot, or even went without you. You can have low self esteem and think that you are not worthy to get picked up on time. Finally you can accept the situation, that you friend is late and you then choose to do something else, like read a book, or write a new manifesting entry into your book, and so on, until your friend arrives.
Happiness is a learned skill. Like learning to ride a bike for the first time it seems a dauntless task, yet after you have learned to ride you wonder why you thought it was going to be so hard. Personal happiness is first and foremost a choice. You choose to be happy: You can and do make that very choice hundreds of times a day.
Every time there is a situation, it is your reaction to it that determines your happiness. A situation is just that a situation, an event, a happening. Your reaction to that is your choice; and this choice is what determines your actions, and these actions carry on to influence your happiness level.
So when an event happens; look at the situation, it only takes a few seconds. What meaning do you intend to attach to this event and why. Think for a second, will the meaning you attach to the situation serve you, or will it cause you to make bad choices. Will you choose to be happy and do something else, or will you choose anger and make erroneous statements? Like when your friend is late, do you do small chores and easy tasks while waiting, or do you get mad and curse them for being irresponsible and wasting your time?
Things happen because there is a reason. Are you so wise and all knowing that you can accurately determine why an event has occurred? The reason is usually not what you jump to conclusion about. More often than not the meaning we attach to an event is not even closely related to the actual cause. This results in confused emotions, and a side effect of stress that you just do not need to inflict upon yourself.
Maybe you thought the worse about your friend and were ready to forever damn them as lowlife scum; when, your friend shows up and says they had to get you this present and it took a little while longer to get it wrapped than anticipated. You are so worked up from your anger you say things that later you will regret. However had you just occupied your time with a few small tasks while waiting, you would then be happily surprised.
So when an event happens, just realize it is an event, nothing more. You then make a choice of how you will react to this event. Will you choose to be happy, or will you choose to be unhappy?
Be Blessed
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