Wednesday, November 28, 2007
Self Confidence
Self confidence is an attitude; an attitude that people develop that is characterized by a positive belief in one’s ability to take control of one's life and of one's plans. People who are self confident are those who acknowledge their capacity to do something and then proceed to do it. They do not rely on the permission or approval of other people in order to affirm their existence. It is enough that they know they have the capacity and the potential to do something, and have the guts to do it.
People who are self confident take advantage of opportunities that come their way, no matter what others may say. Lack of self confidence is not relative to a person's abilities; in fact, there are people who are extremely talented and able but they lack self confidence and so fail to use or show these abilities.
Developing self confidence is not easy; especially if you do not think highly of yourself. If you want to be self confident, avoid things that will discourage you from gaining confidence. This is easier said than done. Start with little things like not dwelling on past mistakes or failures. Whenever you are reminded of a past failure instead think of a successful moment. We all have some success in our lives, like a healthy pet, great cooking skill, a clean house, and so on. Things that you know you have done correctly. By thinking only of your victories and learning from your defeats, you will have more faith in yourself, and eventually, more confidence.
The main cause of poor self confidence and thus low self esteem is: Fear. Fear is the Natural Enemy of Self Confidence and self esteem. Self-Confidence is generally described as the ability of an individual to have faith and believe in their own abilities. According to psychiatrists when one has self-confidence it normally results in having great self-esteem. Self-esteem is defined as the “worth” that one can place on them selves. It is this measurement, of one’s own value as a person, which is proportional to their behavior. In addition, it is referred to as the respect and adoration in which one holds their self based on ones belief of what and who they are as a human being. This greatly affects one’s feelings about ones self, about ones life, about ones relationships, and eventually determines their actions on how one accomplishes things.
Ignorance is the basic and the prime cause of fear. When one is not aware of their “true nature” and the facts needed to make a decision fear develops in the void that is created when one suffers from misinformation or lack of the same. A study showed that when one was convinced or has encountered his indestructible infinite “soul-nature”, then one would never feel fear. However, there are those who cannot or do not accept this, thus they feel separate, vulnerable, susceptible and isolated.
According to studies; fear is man's enemy hindering self confidence. These studies stressed clearly that ‘fear thought” is an illness that can be detected and identified. It largely arises from corrupt mental patterns, wherein the mind is allowed consistently to dwell on doubtful thoughts, inefficiency and failure. This power will become unbearable, when it is freely allowed, affecting your life in virtually every undertaking.
So what do we humans need to do to overcome this fear we hold on to so dearly? We need to investigate, pry, search, study, and learn, all that we can, concerning anything we dare to set our hands to. If we think we might want to do something we should learn about it and then proceed as we learn to accomplish that which we have decided to do. Must we learn all there is to know before we proceed? Of course not, but we must learn enough to get started and to make intelligent choices, either by seeking advice and help, or searching in written tomes, we must know enough to get started correctly.
Remember this; self-confidence is developed, not inherited. The ignorance that causes fear can be overcome, and when that shadowy presence of fear is dissolved by the light of knowledge you can be and do anything you will to.
Be Blessed
People who are self confident take advantage of opportunities that come their way, no matter what others may say. Lack of self confidence is not relative to a person's abilities; in fact, there are people who are extremely talented and able but they lack self confidence and so fail to use or show these abilities.
Developing self confidence is not easy; especially if you do not think highly of yourself. If you want to be self confident, avoid things that will discourage you from gaining confidence. This is easier said than done. Start with little things like not dwelling on past mistakes or failures. Whenever you are reminded of a past failure instead think of a successful moment. We all have some success in our lives, like a healthy pet, great cooking skill, a clean house, and so on. Things that you know you have done correctly. By thinking only of your victories and learning from your defeats, you will have more faith in yourself, and eventually, more confidence.
The main cause of poor self confidence and thus low self esteem is: Fear. Fear is the Natural Enemy of Self Confidence and self esteem. Self-Confidence is generally described as the ability of an individual to have faith and believe in their own abilities. According to psychiatrists when one has self-confidence it normally results in having great self-esteem. Self-esteem is defined as the “worth” that one can place on them selves. It is this measurement, of one’s own value as a person, which is proportional to their behavior. In addition, it is referred to as the respect and adoration in which one holds their self based on ones belief of what and who they are as a human being. This greatly affects one’s feelings about ones self, about ones life, about ones relationships, and eventually determines their actions on how one accomplishes things.
Ignorance is the basic and the prime cause of fear. When one is not aware of their “true nature” and the facts needed to make a decision fear develops in the void that is created when one suffers from misinformation or lack of the same. A study showed that when one was convinced or has encountered his indestructible infinite “soul-nature”, then one would never feel fear. However, there are those who cannot or do not accept this, thus they feel separate, vulnerable, susceptible and isolated.
According to studies; fear is man's enemy hindering self confidence. These studies stressed clearly that ‘fear thought” is an illness that can be detected and identified. It largely arises from corrupt mental patterns, wherein the mind is allowed consistently to dwell on doubtful thoughts, inefficiency and failure. This power will become unbearable, when it is freely allowed, affecting your life in virtually every undertaking.
So what do we humans need to do to overcome this fear we hold on to so dearly? We need to investigate, pry, search, study, and learn, all that we can, concerning anything we dare to set our hands to. If we think we might want to do something we should learn about it and then proceed as we learn to accomplish that which we have decided to do. Must we learn all there is to know before we proceed? Of course not, but we must learn enough to get started and to make intelligent choices, either by seeking advice and help, or searching in written tomes, we must know enough to get started correctly.
Remember this; self-confidence is developed, not inherited. The ignorance that causes fear can be overcome, and when that shadowy presence of fear is dissolved by the light of knowledge you can be and do anything you will to.
Be Blessed
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