Thursday, October 11, 2007
Must We Be Part of the Crowd?
We all feel like we have to belong and fit in to a group. We all went through it in school, but even as adults it can be a struggle to feel like you belong.
There are many things that may make you an individual. For example you may be the only one among your group of friends who's chosen to remain single. Or perhaps you have an affinity for Star Trek that no one in your office seems to understand. You may even be the "black sheep" in your family, the one who seems to think and act differently than everyone else.
There will, quite simply, always be a reason why you don't fit in, somewhere. That is why it's an essential skill to learn not how to fit in, but to learn how to be just fine with NOT fitting in.
You see, it's not necessary to change a thing about yourself so you can be a part of the crowd. Nor is it a bad thing to be different from those in your circle. In fact, everyone feels like they don't fit in from time to time, and everyone wants to feel like they fit in; it's a completely normal part of life.
Most people, because we are identifying with our own limited stories, feel isolated even when they are with other people, we should not worry about being a part of the crowd, we should rejoice that we are different, that you are an individual.
Imagine, then, if you could simply feel confident in yourself whether or not you felt like you fit in. You would never have to worry about feelings of loneliness, awkwardness, self-doubt or low self-esteem because you would be fine with yourself in any situation.
Ironically, if you really want to enjoy the company of others and feel good about yourself, the best way to do it is to stop wanting to fit in. The best way to break free of your suffering and feel more like you fit in is; to let go of your wanting to fit in and forget your wanting to be different than you are just to fit in with a certain crowd.
You can easily let go of "wanting to fit in" just release these negative feelings and feel confident in whom you are. You are who you are, you simply can not be anyone else as they are all taken, and conversely nobody can be you as you already have that job of being you.
To always fit in, just allow yourself to simply be as you are.
Be Blessed
There are many things that may make you an individual. For example you may be the only one among your group of friends who's chosen to remain single. Or perhaps you have an affinity for Star Trek that no one in your office seems to understand. You may even be the "black sheep" in your family, the one who seems to think and act differently than everyone else.
There will, quite simply, always be a reason why you don't fit in, somewhere. That is why it's an essential skill to learn not how to fit in, but to learn how to be just fine with NOT fitting in.
You see, it's not necessary to change a thing about yourself so you can be a part of the crowd. Nor is it a bad thing to be different from those in your circle. In fact, everyone feels like they don't fit in from time to time, and everyone wants to feel like they fit in; it's a completely normal part of life.
Most people, because we are identifying with our own limited stories, feel isolated even when they are with other people, we should not worry about being a part of the crowd, we should rejoice that we are different, that you are an individual.
Imagine, then, if you could simply feel confident in yourself whether or not you felt like you fit in. You would never have to worry about feelings of loneliness, awkwardness, self-doubt or low self-esteem because you would be fine with yourself in any situation.
Ironically, if you really want to enjoy the company of others and feel good about yourself, the best way to do it is to stop wanting to fit in. The best way to break free of your suffering and feel more like you fit in is; to let go of your wanting to fit in and forget your wanting to be different than you are just to fit in with a certain crowd.
You can easily let go of "wanting to fit in" just release these negative feelings and feel confident in whom you are. You are who you are, you simply can not be anyone else as they are all taken, and conversely nobody can be you as you already have that job of being you.
To always fit in, just allow yourself to simply be as you are.
Be Blessed
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