Monday, April 09, 2007
Be Happy Whenever You Want to Be
We all desire to be happy and at peace. Too often we believe that if some event happens, then we’ll be happy or at peace. We base our future happiness on things and conditions. For example we say to ourselves “I will be happy when the kids move out” or I will be happy when I win the lottery” and other similar conditions. The problem is that as soon as you gain what you seek, you soon become disappointed, disillusioned and dissatisfied again. You probably won’t even know why. It’s because you have attached conditions to your happiness and peace.
Thoughts are things, and your thoughts cause your actions that in turn result in what you are. No one and nothing can make you happy or at peace. You do not receive happiness and peacefulness from someone or something else.
Happiness and peace come from inside. You are responsible for yourself. You must make the blatant choice to be happy. You either are, or you’re not. You decide to be happy, and you decide to be at peace.
There are situations that arise from time to time that will test our resolve to be happy. Cars won’t run, children misbehave, co-workers don’t do their jobs, and so on. If you have made the choice to be happy you do not have to react with anger or other non-happy emotions to outside situations. You are in control of yourself, so you decide on how you feel.
There was a game I played with my kids when they were younger, we called each other names. The rules were simple you could not repeat a name that anyone else had said. So I would start out and say “Well, you’re a fence”, and then my son would reply “Oh yea, you are a window”, and my daughter would go “Oh yea, you are a cheeseburger” and so on. We called each other everything from ants to zebras and anchovie to zesty pepperoni. Nobody got their feelings hurt because we knew we were not really a sidewalk, or a French fry.
This training came in handy later in life. When my kids got to middle school it seems that other kids just get mean at that age. So they tried to call my kids names. They would come home from school and be all dejected and feeling sad. We would talk, and I would remind them that name calling is just a game, that the words can not hurt them unless they allowed it. I would point out that their feelings didn’t get hurt when we called each other a pickle or olive. Then I would ask them why. Of course they couldn’t figure it out so I had to tell them that because they knew it wasn’t true, so it had no effect. So what is the difference between being called a coffee pot and being called a dork? Nothing, if it isn’t true it can not hurt you. So my kids learned to not let name calling bother them, that it is yourself that decides how to react to outside influence.
So it is for you; you are the one who decides what you will do when faced with any given situation. Other people or things can not make you happy. Conversely they can not make you sad either. It is the choice you make as to how you react to it. You decide if it hurts your feelings, or it has no effect on your emotions at all... You can choose to be happy, you can choose to be at peace.
Once you determine that you are happy and at peace, you act in happiness and peace. When a negative situation presents itself, just remind yourself that you are happy and at peace. Allow yourself a moment to mentally step back from the situation and find a positive reaction.
Be Blessed
Law of Attraction
BANABU
Dream On
Thoughts are things, and your thoughts cause your actions that in turn result in what you are. No one and nothing can make you happy or at peace. You do not receive happiness and peacefulness from someone or something else.
Happiness and peace come from inside. You are responsible for yourself. You must make the blatant choice to be happy. You either are, or you’re not. You decide to be happy, and you decide to be at peace.
There are situations that arise from time to time that will test our resolve to be happy. Cars won’t run, children misbehave, co-workers don’t do their jobs, and so on. If you have made the choice to be happy you do not have to react with anger or other non-happy emotions to outside situations. You are in control of yourself, so you decide on how you feel.
There was a game I played with my kids when they were younger, we called each other names. The rules were simple you could not repeat a name that anyone else had said. So I would start out and say “Well, you’re a fence”, and then my son would reply “Oh yea, you are a window”, and my daughter would go “Oh yea, you are a cheeseburger” and so on. We called each other everything from ants to zebras and anchovie to zesty pepperoni. Nobody got their feelings hurt because we knew we were not really a sidewalk, or a French fry.
This training came in handy later in life. When my kids got to middle school it seems that other kids just get mean at that age. So they tried to call my kids names. They would come home from school and be all dejected and feeling sad. We would talk, and I would remind them that name calling is just a game, that the words can not hurt them unless they allowed it. I would point out that their feelings didn’t get hurt when we called each other a pickle or olive. Then I would ask them why. Of course they couldn’t figure it out so I had to tell them that because they knew it wasn’t true, so it had no effect. So what is the difference between being called a coffee pot and being called a dork? Nothing, if it isn’t true it can not hurt you. So my kids learned to not let name calling bother them, that it is yourself that decides how to react to outside influence.
So it is for you; you are the one who decides what you will do when faced with any given situation. Other people or things can not make you happy. Conversely they can not make you sad either. It is the choice you make as to how you react to it. You decide if it hurts your feelings, or it has no effect on your emotions at all... You can choose to be happy, you can choose to be at peace.
Once you determine that you are happy and at peace, you act in happiness and peace. When a negative situation presents itself, just remind yourself that you are happy and at peace. Allow yourself a moment to mentally step back from the situation and find a positive reaction.
Be Blessed
Law of Attraction
BANABU
Dream On
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