Thursday, April 05, 2007
Self Realization
Sometimes, when all our doubts, fears and insecurities wrap ourselves up, we always come up with the idea of “I wish I was somebody else.” More often than not, we think and believe that someone or rather, most people are better than us. When in reality, the fact is, most people are more scared than we are.
Another element of thinking and having an open mind is our programming. Socialization is our learning environment from the time of our birth to this moment. It includes our culture, friends, and the people we have met along the way, family, authority figures, and so on; virtually every person, place or thing we have encountered within our lifetime! It causes prejudices, dislikes, and believing certain things are “right” and others are “wrong”. It leaves various choices unexplored, many opportunities adrift and multitudinous pathways labeled as “wrong”.
Some of this programming is necessary to keep us safe, healthy and worldly-wise. However, a crowd of it clogs our thinking and suppresses aptitude. It’s this part that causes a closed mind, holding you back and keeping you attached to the past. Once you can let go of this programming, doors of possibility and success open to you.
Isn’t it funny? We look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with them, while they look at us and thinks of the same thing. We are insecure of other people who themselves are insecure of us. We suffer from low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and lose hope in self improvement because we are enveloped in quiet desperation.
Programming causes attachments to the past, essentially causing us to cherish the programming that was done to us in the past. These attachments engender negative thoughts, limiting self - speech, limiting actions and responses, and the exigency to “be right”. None of these traits are conducive to being open or to achieve your goals.
One key to self improvement is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend. Find someone who you find comfort in opening up with even the most gentle topics you want to discuss. Ask questions like “do you think I am ill-mannered?”, or “Do I always sound so argumentative?”, “Do I talk too loud?” and so on. In this way, the other person will obviously know that you are interested in the process of self improvement. Open up your mind and heart as well. And in return, you may want to help your friend with constructive criticism that will also help her or him improve their self. Do not be vindictive, if something is mentioned that hurts, do not retaliate or try to defend yourself. Write it down so you can work on it later when it does not sting so much.
A lot of this mental programming is easy to recognize. Each has a recorded tape that runs in your mind. Have you ever heard yourself sounding like your mother or dad? Say a word your grandmother always said? Cause something, now someone else always did it that way? Feel a particular way about someone or something, seeing that’s the correct way to feel? Become repulsed by something, because you’ve always felt that way? These are undocked programming tapes. You duty is to begin recognizing them and eliminating them from your mind.
Self fulfilling prophecies, usually from your head programming, causes the fear and panic whenever you try something new or risk something. They pull you; they transfer you back to your comfort zone. They keep your expectations owing to yourself, others and events, including limiting your capabilities, talent, future and opportunities. They direct you from listening to concepts that just could reveal your passageway to success. Your parents would never have considered same trick, and you’re not about to either!
Stop thinking of yourselves as second-rate beings. Forget the repetitive thought of “If only I was richer… if only I was thinner” and so on. Accepting your true self is the first step to self improvement. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others only to find out at the end that we’ve got more reasons to envy them.
Why do we have to always be right? This is another symptom of our programming, most likely from a very influential person, when we were young. Whether you affirm it or not, you have to exemplify honorable! You have to believe what you were told was true, no matter what… The programming is and so strong that it’s a basic reflex. You’ll argue your butt end off until you’re either forced to quit or run out of time. Ever have a time when you wondered why you argued about the topic at all? It wasn’t even important to you afterward, or you could actually see the other person’s point? This is a result of your programming; and unfortunately, doesn’t make you any new friends.
I remember my first grand epiphany, when I found out there was more than one religion, that there were a lot of people who did not believe the same stuff I was taught. It created a thirst, a hunger for more knowledge. Luckily I was able to overcome my religious training and was able to seek the truth with a mind set on learning rather than proving what I had been told was true.
To have an open mind and complete your goals, you must release this need to be right, the limiting self - usage, the programming, and the negative thoughts. You may determine to perform a goal, but failure to recognize all of this negative programming will keep you from believing it, and therefore from achieving it.
We all have our insecurities. Nobody is perfect. We always wish we had better things, better features, better body parts, etc. But life needs not to be perfect for people to be happy about themselves. Self improvement and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole world that you are perfect and you are the best. It’s the virtue of acceptance and contentment. When we begin to improve ourselves, we then begin to feel contented and happy.
Be Blessed
http://true-happiness.blogspot.com/
http://manifesting-dreams.blogspot.com/
http://www.staffofpower.com/BANABU.html
http://www.staffofpower.com/manifesting.html
Another element of thinking and having an open mind is our programming. Socialization is our learning environment from the time of our birth to this moment. It includes our culture, friends, and the people we have met along the way, family, authority figures, and so on; virtually every person, place or thing we have encountered within our lifetime! It causes prejudices, dislikes, and believing certain things are “right” and others are “wrong”. It leaves various choices unexplored, many opportunities adrift and multitudinous pathways labeled as “wrong”.
Some of this programming is necessary to keep us safe, healthy and worldly-wise. However, a crowd of it clogs our thinking and suppresses aptitude. It’s this part that causes a closed mind, holding you back and keeping you attached to the past. Once you can let go of this programming, doors of possibility and success open to you.
Isn’t it funny? We look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with them, while they look at us and thinks of the same thing. We are insecure of other people who themselves are insecure of us. We suffer from low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and lose hope in self improvement because we are enveloped in quiet desperation.
Programming causes attachments to the past, essentially causing us to cherish the programming that was done to us in the past. These attachments engender negative thoughts, limiting self - speech, limiting actions and responses, and the exigency to “be right”. None of these traits are conducive to being open or to achieve your goals.
One key to self improvement is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend. Find someone who you find comfort in opening up with even the most gentle topics you want to discuss. Ask questions like “do you think I am ill-mannered?”, or “Do I always sound so argumentative?”, “Do I talk too loud?” and so on. In this way, the other person will obviously know that you are interested in the process of self improvement. Open up your mind and heart as well. And in return, you may want to help your friend with constructive criticism that will also help her or him improve their self. Do not be vindictive, if something is mentioned that hurts, do not retaliate or try to defend yourself. Write it down so you can work on it later when it does not sting so much.
A lot of this mental programming is easy to recognize. Each has a recorded tape that runs in your mind. Have you ever heard yourself sounding like your mother or dad? Say a word your grandmother always said? Cause something, now someone else always did it that way? Feel a particular way about someone or something, seeing that’s the correct way to feel? Become repulsed by something, because you’ve always felt that way? These are undocked programming tapes. You duty is to begin recognizing them and eliminating them from your mind.
Self fulfilling prophecies, usually from your head programming, causes the fear and panic whenever you try something new or risk something. They pull you; they transfer you back to your comfort zone. They keep your expectations owing to yourself, others and events, including limiting your capabilities, talent, future and opportunities. They direct you from listening to concepts that just could reveal your passageway to success. Your parents would never have considered same trick, and you’re not about to either!
Stop thinking of yourselves as second-rate beings. Forget the repetitive thought of “If only I was richer… if only I was thinner” and so on. Accepting your true self is the first step to self improvement. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others only to find out at the end that we’ve got more reasons to envy them.
Why do we have to always be right? This is another symptom of our programming, most likely from a very influential person, when we were young. Whether you affirm it or not, you have to exemplify honorable! You have to believe what you were told was true, no matter what… The programming is and so strong that it’s a basic reflex. You’ll argue your butt end off until you’re either forced to quit or run out of time. Ever have a time when you wondered why you argued about the topic at all? It wasn’t even important to you afterward, or you could actually see the other person’s point? This is a result of your programming; and unfortunately, doesn’t make you any new friends.
I remember my first grand epiphany, when I found out there was more than one religion, that there were a lot of people who did not believe the same stuff I was taught. It created a thirst, a hunger for more knowledge. Luckily I was able to overcome my religious training and was able to seek the truth with a mind set on learning rather than proving what I had been told was true.
To have an open mind and complete your goals, you must release this need to be right, the limiting self - usage, the programming, and the negative thoughts. You may determine to perform a goal, but failure to recognize all of this negative programming will keep you from believing it, and therefore from achieving it.
We all have our insecurities. Nobody is perfect. We always wish we had better things, better features, better body parts, etc. But life needs not to be perfect for people to be happy about themselves. Self improvement and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole world that you are perfect and you are the best. It’s the virtue of acceptance and contentment. When we begin to improve ourselves, we then begin to feel contented and happy.
Be Blessed
http://true-happiness.blogspot.com/
http://manifesting-dreams.blogspot.com/
http://www.staffofpower.com/BANABU.html
http://www.staffofpower.com/manifesting.html
http://www.staffofpower.com
