Friday, March 23, 2007
Self Esteem, a Key of Manifesting
Why do things just seem to work out better for those people who have self esteem? Here are some tips you may need to consider as a starter guide.
Imagine yourself as a dog. Dogs have great self esteem. They don’t care about what might happen, they only concern themselves with what is happening. Dogs show love easily and without reservation. They are driven by only pleasure and pain. (Not to mention they eat like teenagers.) Am I saying we should be like dogs? No, however we should take from them a few examples and this will help us to develop self esteem.
Everything and everyone else around you at one point or another will try to influence you to do something. Some things are just plain good for you and most of them also deliver pleasure. Some things bring pain and discomfort, and we should avoid or mitigate these things.
Things that we should concentrate on that will in the long run be to our benefit are self love, love for others and having a code of conduct.
The first thing that many people do not have is self love. We do not love ourselves. There are many reasons given, like too skinny, too fat, too short, too tall, too this, too that, and so on. Stop focusing on what you don’t like about yourself. Look for something that you like about yourself instead. Find something outside yourself that you do like. Are you a great cook, or a fine artist? Do you have the best looking yard in the neighborhood? By focusing on something we like to do or are good at we ignore the part of us we currently do not like. By focusing on what is good we learn to appreciate ourselves.
Now look for something you like inside yourself. Do you value your own life? Is there a reason to allow yourself to continue to exist? For most people it is serving others. You have children that need taking care of, parents, spouses and siblings. Some of us have even gone so far as to take care of other people who are not family of friends. This is love for others. Without this you will see your life as being empty.
Last but not least is a code of conduct. We each need our own personal code of conduct. Start with a few key words. Honor, respect, devotion, love, caring, and so on.
Create an acronym with the key words. For example; HARD. (Honor, Admiration, Respect, Duty) Now create a short sentence about each word;
I will act with Honor at all times
I will give Admiration to all things and people
I will Respect others and their values
I will perform my Duties to the best of my ability
This will give you a method to measure against no matter what the situation. You have to be true to yourself, but if you do not know what to be true to, then you can’t. By having your own code of conduct you will enable yourself to grow mentally as well as spiritually. You will have self esteem because you have the three keys. Self love, love of others and a code of conduct. These keys will govern our attitude, our behavior and our way of thinking.
Once you have self esteem you will find that there are many challenges. By having your own code of conduct you can overcome those challenges. Let’s examine a few examples.
The Negative Work Environment: Beware of “dog-eat-dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Stay out of this, it will ruin you. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is. Do your work, but at the end of the day, leave work at work. Go home and enjoy what you have. This where having something outside yourself works wonders. Let us say the thing outside yourself was flower gardening. When you get home you go and tend your garden. After a while you just feel good again and then you can interact better with your family.
Other People’s Behavior: Bullies, brown nose’s, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, controllers, naggers, complainers, button pushers, patronizers, sluffers, and other losers… all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem. By holding true to your code of conduct you can minimize the effect these people have on you.
Changing Environment: Change is the only constant you can count on. Everything is changing all the time. Changes challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes may even make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be there forever, we must learn to accept it. By loving others we learn that change is good and we rejoice in seeing the changes. When kids grow up, or sick people get better, or when someone learns a new skill. Rejoice with them and share their happiness.
It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson. Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world; we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations. Learn from your mistakes and become better at what you do.
You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you don’t make the same mistakes. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self esteem is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God is not going to come down from heaven and tell you – “You now have the permission to build self esteem.”
Building self esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. It’s like a flame that grows from the inside out. When we develop self esteem, we take control of our very lives.
So how do you start using self esteem? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will build self esteem.
Be Blessed
Imagine yourself as a dog. Dogs have great self esteem. They don’t care about what might happen, they only concern themselves with what is happening. Dogs show love easily and without reservation. They are driven by only pleasure and pain. (Not to mention they eat like teenagers.) Am I saying we should be like dogs? No, however we should take from them a few examples and this will help us to develop self esteem.
Everything and everyone else around you at one point or another will try to influence you to do something. Some things are just plain good for you and most of them also deliver pleasure. Some things bring pain and discomfort, and we should avoid or mitigate these things.
Things that we should concentrate on that will in the long run be to our benefit are self love, love for others and having a code of conduct.
The first thing that many people do not have is self love. We do not love ourselves. There are many reasons given, like too skinny, too fat, too short, too tall, too this, too that, and so on. Stop focusing on what you don’t like about yourself. Look for something that you like about yourself instead. Find something outside yourself that you do like. Are you a great cook, or a fine artist? Do you have the best looking yard in the neighborhood? By focusing on something we like to do or are good at we ignore the part of us we currently do not like. By focusing on what is good we learn to appreciate ourselves.
Now look for something you like inside yourself. Do you value your own life? Is there a reason to allow yourself to continue to exist? For most people it is serving others. You have children that need taking care of, parents, spouses and siblings. Some of us have even gone so far as to take care of other people who are not family of friends. This is love for others. Without this you will see your life as being empty.
Last but not least is a code of conduct. We each need our own personal code of conduct. Start with a few key words. Honor, respect, devotion, love, caring, and so on.
Create an acronym with the key words. For example; HARD. (Honor, Admiration, Respect, Duty) Now create a short sentence about each word;
I will act with Honor at all times
I will give Admiration to all things and people
I will Respect others and their values
I will perform my Duties to the best of my ability
This will give you a method to measure against no matter what the situation. You have to be true to yourself, but if you do not know what to be true to, then you can’t. By having your own code of conduct you will enable yourself to grow mentally as well as spiritually. You will have self esteem because you have the three keys. Self love, love of others and a code of conduct. These keys will govern our attitude, our behavior and our way of thinking.
Once you have self esteem you will find that there are many challenges. By having your own code of conduct you can overcome those challenges. Let’s examine a few examples.
The Negative Work Environment: Beware of “dog-eat-dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Stay out of this, it will ruin you. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is. Do your work, but at the end of the day, leave work at work. Go home and enjoy what you have. This where having something outside yourself works wonders. Let us say the thing outside yourself was flower gardening. When you get home you go and tend your garden. After a while you just feel good again and then you can interact better with your family.
Other People’s Behavior: Bullies, brown nose’s, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, controllers, naggers, complainers, button pushers, patronizers, sluffers, and other losers… all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem. By holding true to your code of conduct you can minimize the effect these people have on you.
Changing Environment: Change is the only constant you can count on. Everything is changing all the time. Changes challenge our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes may even make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve our selves. Change will be there forever, we must learn to accept it. By loving others we learn that change is good and we rejoice in seeing the changes. When kids grow up, or sick people get better, or when someone learns a new skill. Rejoice with them and share their happiness.
It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain transform itself into fear. Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson. Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativities of the world; we must learn how to make the best out of worst situations. Learn from your mistakes and become better at what you do.
You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience, so you don’t make the same mistakes. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self esteem is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God is not going to come down from heaven and tell you – “You now have the permission to build self esteem.”
Building self esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if we start to become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. It’s like a flame that grows from the inside out. When we develop self esteem, we take control of our very lives.
So how do you start using self esteem? Be positive. Be contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A positive way of living will build self esteem.
Be Blessed
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